Love vs Lust

Ever have the thought that you could be dangerously in love? Falling into the danger of having confusion and misunderstanding between love and lust, unable to handle your emotions well enough? Now, what is the difference between love and lust? Well, I should believe that it is something worth our thoughts and understanding.

If you were to look through a dictionary, you should find something like this:



LOVE

• To have strong feelings of affection for another adult and be romantically and sexually attracted to them

• Warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion

• Unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another

LUST


• An overwhelming desire or craving: a lust for power

• Usually intense or unbridled sexual desire

• Intense eagerness or enthusiasm

Notice how different they can be?
Seeing the sign that you could possibly be dangerously in love? True love, the genuine care and concern for your love is what we should be having. But lust, the uncontrolled desire or craving for your love is certainly not to be desired. Having too much of lust than to love can certainly bring danger to your love relationship. But well, we are still human afterall and I must say that these very two emotions is certainly within and happening inside of us. You can never deny that fact that you will be having lust at times. But perhaps all these while, it just didn’t occur to you that you have at times been actually feeling so, having some uncontrolled lust over your love. So, I thought it would be good to just bring to your attention and make you be aware of it, to allow you to be better handling your emotions.

In simple, we can say that love is a choice; a choice that you hope to have; to be having that chance to be with that someone whom you love, having that chance to genuinely and unselfishly be giving him or her your true tender love and care, bringing about that happiness for him or her. Whereas lust is a want, an obsessive desire to have purely for self-satisfaction and pleasure.

When you love someone, you love him or her for who they are. You always respect your love and never insist on them doing things that are against their will, which may include having sex. Now, love is always a two-way communication and not just about you. In a love relationship, you give and take. You don’t just take and take. By only taking and not giving, you are actually behaving in a way of having lust, wanting just more and more for yourself out of the relationship. Instead of providing your love with happiness, you are only thinking about how your love can or should make you happy. To describe it in a more ugly way, you are just loving yourself more than to actually loving him or her. And this is certainly not the way as to how a love relationship should be. A blissful love relationship should always be mutual, a mutual happiness for the both. Many at times, we tend to just think for ourselves and this can be especially so for those who are already in a steady love relationship for or a year or more. Well, in the beginning of the love relationship, both would always be on their best to make their love, their partner happy. Just recall those sweet memories. Don’t you just genuinely feel happy when you were able to make them smile and happy back then? And to even be happy when accepting their bad habits and faults? But very often, it is sad to be saying that thing changes when the both eventually got together. Finding faults with one another, quarreling over the slightest things. All the initial acceptance of one another was just not longer there anymore. And for some, sadly to even have to end the very relationship. Now, are you in a love relationship; one which has already passes that initial honeymoon period? Still going steadily with one another? If you are, well done and congratulations!


But do let me just ask. Between the both, who has been the one whom is always the one giving? Well, there must certainly have been one of you who have been the one giving more. Think about it. Whoever that may be, I would say that he or she has given you their true love and care, a wonderful and unselfish love. And this is definitely a love you should cherish, a love whom you should respect. Do just honestly ask yourself. Have you unknowingly at times react in a way of lust, unreasonably blaming your love when he or she is not able to meet your expectations; not able to make you happy? And not to mention having forcing him or her to do something against their will just to satisfy your very own wants, to making you yourself happy? Remember, nobody is perfect and that includes you. And that is why we have to learn to give and take. We were taught that since young and it absolutely applies too in a love relationship.

#Whats next to impress her?
Once you have found the love of your life all thats left is picking out the right engagement rings. Show her how much you love her with beautiful diamond rings and wedding bands.


We give and we take. Not too much of giving nor too much of taking.
Have you unknowingly been taking too much? Think about it. It is still not late to be realizing it now especially when you have that chance.

If she seems unapproachable

"Often the single woman is very lonely. Not many guys ask particular women on dates and when they are asked they will take advantage of it even if you are not her automatic knight in shining armour. You have to understand that even though many women receive attention constantly, they do not actually get asked out on dates. This can be for many reasons and the initial one to come to mind is that all of the guys thought she would say "no". They may think she is too good for them and she may not come accross as the approachable type.

Have you ever met someone and they ended up being a lot nicer than what your impression of them was? People carry around themselves an aura of "leave me alone" or "I'll bite your head off" type barrier. You only have to break this shield and you are halfway there to getting the woman you desire. Within seconds of asking a woman on a date she can actually change her opinion of you. This is luckily favouring you. She is suddenly thinking of you as a possible mate whereas before you were just another guy to her. The planting of the interest from you into the woman's brain is an extremely important move in catching the women you want. She is now thinking about you in this way. Have you ever had a woman show interest in you and then suddenly you like her more than you did before? Well now you are adding up the minuses and plusses to getting further involved with this woman. You must put yourself into their thoughts to give yourself a chance!

Many girls want to have dates arranged so your approach is welcomed and sometimes even wished for. Maybe all of her friends are in relationships and she doesn't have a lot of choices with whom to go out with. Or have you ever thought the woman you are thinking about asking on a date really wants you badly? She only needs to be slightly attracted to you and you will get her on a date by asking with confidence and not taking no for an answer. This is even if she plays hard to get. She may even mean no to start with and some gentle persuasion will talk her into it." More reasons to not perceive her as unapproachable by Johnny Shack:

"Its romantic for a woman being asked on a date. They love romance!
Women want a mate and you may be the one they are after. Most women will try different models before they settle down to have babies and you should be in the showroom at least offering a test drive. All girls dream of their wedding day and the last thing they want is to be left on the shelf. They are searching as hard as you are guys!
Women want someone to kiss and to hold. Someone to have coffee with and to go to the pictures or to see a show with. They feel horrible if they don't have anyone. Many women think: "If only a decent guy would come along. Thats all I ask for". Some even cry themselves to sleep wishing to meet this guy and to at least have the opportunity to sort through their dates to find one. They know that without dating this can't happen. Also, there is something very exciting about going out with a stranger that you just met. It's an air of "anything could happen" that strongly helps to alter a girls mood and make her susceptible to doing things she normally wouldn't.

Pathology

Some say that Pathology is a window to God. As doctors, they see the perversion and corruption of the flesh by all means unnatural…by violence…by toxin…by madness… to determine the cause of death. As a result they are the experts in all signs of foul play and the best in the field can uncover all means of killing, even those that are seemingly undetectable.

When med school student Ted Gray (Milo Ventimiglia) graduates top of his class he joins one of the nation’s most prestigious Pathology programs. With talent and determination Ted is quickly noticed by the program’s privileged and elite band of pathology interns who invite him into their crowd. Intrigued by his new friends he begins to uncover secrets he never expected and finds that he has unknowingly become a pawn in their dangerous and secret after-hours game at the morgue of who can commit the perfect undetectable murder. As Ted becomes seduced into their wild extracurricular activities the danger becomes real and he must stay one step ahead of the game before he is the next victim.

From the creators of Crank, MGM presents “Pathology,” a sexy, psychological thriller directed by award-winning director Marc Schoelermann from a screenplay by Mark Neveldine & Brian Taylor (Crank). The film stars Milo Ventimiglia (NBC’s Heroes, Rocky Balboa), Alyssa Milano (TV’s Charmed), Michael Weston (TV’s Scrubs, Garden State), Lauren Lee Smith (Trick r’ Treat, Art School Confidential) and Johnny Whitworth (3:10 to Yuma, Empire Records). The film also stars Keir O’Donnell (The Wedding Crashers), Dan Callahan (Crank) and Mei Melancon (X-Men: The Last Stand).

The Lakeshore Entertainment production is produced by Tom Rosenberg (Million Dollar Baby, Crank), Skip Williamson (Crank, Underworld), Gary Lucchesi (The Last Kiss, Million Dollar Baby), and Brian Taylor and Mark Neveldine (Crank).

Women vs Bad Boys

This whole concept is completely illogical to the innumerable million the men who are the “large hooks” or adopt the traditional approach of “court” to date. They do not include/understand how the women continue to fall for these types. Briefly let us look at dynamics related and social real which continues thus we can include/understand more this phenomenon. This manner perhaps that you can prevent to be the type your beautiful friend cries its shoulder over approximately the jolt it sees.

Instead of that you can be “all around the type” this it upwards finishes obtaining physical with for both the advantage from both you.

Today's woman live in a paradox. They often cannot even explain why they do what they. All a thing indicates to them logically; TO GO for type” really the “nice one which brings present and A to offer much to him.

Unfortunately, almost always (unless it is a but-digger which wants to employ it) its heart is not in him. It does not have “feelings” for this kind of the type. Sure it call appel upon ideal social popular that be proported in the music and the film, but when that repair you or it?

I do you want to say, really look at you to marry with a woman starting from the first date? You do not even know it still!

The company supports the construction of the woman basically; driving out, putting it before you and primarily on a pedestal. It is the “price” to catch, but all this gives him the power and the favour in the report/ratio which is not normal.

This is also taught to us by our mothers so that the “nice types” become goods, worrying husbands. So many men took to us with this council seriously (because it is also favoured in films, the music and the t.v.) it now has a social pandemia of the epic proportions.

Taking into fact that the company reversed the social power and gave the women all in at the same time repressing these men even promote, and have you more than one related disorder. None of these nice types rightly for the girl because they come on too extremely too early (for a long-term report/ratio) and mainly because however the women can carry the type to his/her parents, it feels not attracted with him.

It has now more freedom than ever and with the social influence like the “sex and the city” it wants to have the recreation and to be occasional. It wants to end up knowing a type instead of the pressurization in a report/ratio type of marriage with him before knowing it. As is left for the physical freedom of a woman? (Improved Maintenant-a) outlaws. The bad lots, jolts, a-holes, etc who did not worry about the traditional social programming, therefore were not affected by it love the traditional men.

These types of guys maintained their character normal and were not influenced or were not changed not to adapt any social standard. traditional, therefore were not affected by it love the traditional men.

Thus, they are the closely observed thing with being a man and the women are attracted with these types because they can trust them to be themselves. When the woman can trust a man to be itself, it can open upwards around him because it knows what it obtains.

She can trust him to be him for which it is.

The bad lots and jolts live in their own reality. They are not prone to the doctrines of the traditional company thus they do not leave which obtain in the manner of being just normal. All the men and women know the joining process instinctively; the social influence (and then interior belief of this social influence) just obtained in the manner.

The little runt of the stretcher begins it to believe IS really underprivileged and undesirable when it was really right its social environment which influenced it. You should not learn how to have success with women and to date. You owe DISAPPRENDRE very who corrupted your capacity to know what to make.

It is time for million these traditional men who really have the long-term value to intensify and include/understand related dynamics so that they can give women what they want; a true man.

Not the jellyfishes-backboned manboy which supplies with its each whim and desire.

The shift did not occur yet on a scale of mass, but when more men start to intensify, the women will be able to then prefer these types above the outlaws.

Women must be attracted with a man and it is its own normal and biological character; it is the opposite of its own social treatment.

To apply the related dynamics of alpha and you can be the man whom the women want and you can frame the type of reports/ratios that you want and they can take it or leave it; you to join or not.

You can take them far from the enormous social pressures which they intervene and literally MUST confirm. Otherwise they will go again to their creme Romance of novels, vibrator, and frozen.

To listen to the social programming even more is simply prejudicial. You have the power to differ from it and of your whole reality Re-braces so that you have the same power as a bad lot without all the bad drama.

How Important Are Looks?

How important are looks? Let me put it this way. After doing initial research for this chapter, it was a tough choice between plastic surgery or suicide. First, let's get the bad news out of the way for those of us, male or female, who are less than a 10 in the looks department. Looks count! Remember in high school when you asked about a blind date's looks and your best friend said, "Oh, she's got a great personality" or "He's a really nice guy." The kiss of death, right? Yes, looks count on first meeting, especially to men. However, looks are a perception, and we can manipulate perceptions. What God cheated us out of in the looks department, we can make up for through clever techniques that have a lot more to do with your Quarry's first impressions of you (your body language, self-image, and communications skills) than they do with makeup.

What do we consider good-looking? It varies, of course, from culture to culture. In our country, thin is in. (Not so for the Sirono women from Bolivia who constantly gorge themselves to become a nice fat armful for their men.) American men prefer to kiss slightly curved Cupid's-bow lips. (Not so for Ubangis, who put saucers in their lips to stretch them out like pancakes.)Different standards of beauty prevail around the world, but one thing remains constant. Mother Nature plays a role in telling us who's hot and who's not. Even in modern-day America, women like a man with strong features who looks like he would be a good, caring provider. Men like a woman who looks like she is sexy and could bear healthy children. Studies tell us precisely what is in vogue.

What Type of Looks Do Women Like?
Here is what a group of researchers found that women most liked in a man's face:
Women are attracted to men whose appearances elicit their nurturant feelings; who appear to possess sexual maturity and dominance characteristics; who seem sociable, approachable and of high social status . . . Individuals who display an optimal combination of neotenous (boyish) features of large eyes, the mature features of prominent cheekbones and a large chin, the expressive feature of a big smile, and high-status clothing were seen more attractive than other men. What type of body do women like? American women generally prefer men of average build, but bigger above the waist than below. The studies tell us they prefer V's to pears. However, taste varies depending on the class of the woman judging the male anatomy. Women on the lower end of
the socioeconomic totem pole prefer muscle men. Conversely, highly paid professional women find hefty beefcake downright distasteful. They go for the dark, slim, and sensitive body types.

hat about height? One assumes the taller the better because our culture venerates height. In fact, practically every president elected in the United States since 1900 was the taller of the two candidates. The Wall Street Journal reported that taller graduating college students (6'2" and over) received an average starting salary 12.4 percent higher than those who were under six feet tall. Yet, in the sexual arena, apparently taller isn't better. Women of all sizes—short, medium, and tall—rated a variety of men equal in all features except height. The medium sizers won. Gentlemen, speaking of size (yes, the size of it), the only source I can turn to is a recent article in a popular woman's magazine called "Is Big Really Better?" The article equivocated (lest readers' husbands get hold of the article and be emotionally destroyed). However, a photograph accompanying the article left the question open. Two attractive women were shown rolling on the floor in hysterics as one of their friends held up a baby finger.

What Type of Looks Do Men Like?
When answering researchers' questions about women's looks, men were less articulate. A typical answer was, "Uh, gee, well, you know [grunt, grunt], uh, good-looking." However, a group of resolute scientists plodded on and zeroed in on what the average male considers attractive. Yes, thin is definitely in. For women especially. In an analysis of singles' ads, researchers discovered, out of twenty-eight desirable qualities, thinness topped the list for men. Again, this varied with the class and personality of the man. More extroverted and lower-class men choose large-breasted, wide-hipped women. More introverted and upper-class males choose smaller-framed women. A group of men from various classes was shown photos of large-breasted nudes in typical pinup poses along with some pictures of more fully clothed attractive women. The results were as expected when the men were asked which they would like for a roll in the hay. However, when questioned on which they would prefer as a wife, both upper- and lower-class men

chose the more clothed woman. Many of the upper-class men even preferred the clothed lady for a roll in the hay (or a tryst in the backseat of their Mercedes). Unfortunately, the studies weren't any more enlightening on the specific facial features men like. This is probably because, like in all other aspects of their lives, men don't pay as much attention to detail as women do. There was a time when our culture was obsessed with symmetry. No longer. And, in times gone by, men wanted women in the lighter ranges of their own ethnic coloring. Women preferred just the opposite. Darker-hued men got top points. However, as our melting pot boils faster, the old blond-haired, blue-eyed, angel-faced beauty standard is rapidly changing. Some of today's top beauties are very different from that stereotypical idea. Now it's the look. Fortunately, if you weren't born with the look, you can get it—with a little brains, some imagination, and a makeup bag. The only generalization we can make on looks is that both sexes prefer people with a clear complexion, a slender body, shiny hair, straight white teeth, and clear eyes—in other words, healthy.

First Impressions Last Forever

The first moment your Quarry lays eyes on you has awesome potency. The picture burns its way into his or her eyes and can stay emblazoned in your Quarry's memory forever. I have a dear friend, an older gentleman named Gerald, who is very sought after in the social scene of his hometown. He is a charming escort for several elderly ladies who long ago lost their husbands. Gerald met these women when they were all in high school together back in the late 1940OS. His women friends are inwardly beautiful; however, physically, several have gained weight and have long since lost their youthful attractiveness. Once, at a party, I overheard a rude man tease Gerald about his taste in women. My friend was genuinely confused at the tactless remark."But they are all beautiful!" Gerald exclaimed. He reached into his wallet and pulled out an old, dog-eared black-and-white photograph of his high school homecoming queen and her court. "See?" Gerald said to the man. Two of the three ladies he was currently escorting were in the photo. One of them was the homecoming queen.

To this day, Gerald sees his lady friends as beautiful as they were back in 1948. Such is the power of first impressions. Image consultants are paid housands of dollars to pontificate in boardrooms across America, "You never get a second chance to make a first impression." The adage has been given the exalted status of a proverb: "First impressions are most lasting." So what else is new? What's new is this: Even as we enter the 21st century, we don't really comprehend the unbelievable compass and consequence of first impressions. Or on what lilliputian details they are sometimes based. Gentlemen, one backward baseball cap or gold chain flashing through the hair on your chest can make or break a budding relationship with the lady before you even say "hi." Ladies, one quarter of a turn away when he ventures "hello," can turn the handsome prince back into a frightened frog.

Be Ready for Love—Always!

If first impressions are so crucial and a Potential Love Partner makes the "go/no go" decision within seconds of spotting you, here's the big question: Why do people looking for love spend so much time making themselves attractive when they go out on a date but so little when they take the dog to the vet? By the time you have the date, your Quarry's first impression of you has already been set. How you look on the date is, of course, important. But it's not nearly as decisive as his or her first glimpse of you. You don't realize it, but here's the sad truth: You have probably let dozens of PLPS get away in recent months just because your trap wasn't set—you weren't fixed up for the kill. Hunters, that means you weren't dressed for the part. Huntresses, that means you weren't groomed properly.

Research shows that for men, clothes are more crucial to first impressions. For women, it's her body and face. Huntresses, you may well ask, "Is makeup all that important?" Let's go to the studies. Researchers asked men to talk with six different women who sometimes wore makeup, sometimes didn't. Their study, "Lipstick as a Determiner of First Impressions of Personality," revealed that the male opinion of each woman was very different when she wore lipstick.

Women, how many times, sauntering down the street without your makeup, have you spotted Handsome Stranger, who doesn't even look your way? If he's a typical male attracted by rosy lips and nice big eyes, what do you expect? Men, how many times, in your grungy clothes, have you tried to talk to Lovely Lady on the bus who gives you a cursory answer and looks away? If she's a
typical woman attracted by an air of competence and success.

DRESS FOR "THE KILL"—EVERYWHERE
Men, this does not mean you have to don your
three-piece suit to buy the newspaper. Women, it does
not mean you need to slap on three coats of mascara to
walk the dog. What it does mean is whenever you step
out the door, step out dressed to kill . . . your Quarry.

We get lazy about first impressions due to the reinforcement theory. Say you fix yourself up for the kill. You go out to walk the dog three times, four times, looking like a traffic stopper, and nothing happens. So you say, "Hey, this doesn't work." In my sales seminars, I tell participants that the average sale is not made until after the fifth sales call. Give it some time. Can't you wait five more dog-walks for your future beloved to say, "Nice doggy. What's his name? And, by the way, what's yours?"

Stay Psychologically ''Fit to Kill" Not only should you be physically ready, you must keep your mental doors open to let love walk in . . . wherever you are. PLPS don't just enter your life from parties and singles' clubs. Cindy is an attractive young manicurist who has been doing my nails for several years. (There must be some drug in nail polish remover that dissolves women's inhibitions and induces them to spill every detail of their lives as they hold hands across the manicure table.) For months Cindy had been griping to me that, in her line of work, all she meets is women.

I had a late appointment with Cindy one evening about six o'clock. She was telling me how, after a long day of clipping, filing, and painting, she's too tired to go out to singles' bars to try to meet someone. At about 6:45 P.M., the door opened behind Cindy's back. We heard a deep male voice say, "Excuse me, I know it's terribly late. But is it possible to get a manicure?" I looked up over Cindy's shoulder and beheld a Greek god. (I had no idea such deities needed manicures!) Before I could pull my jaw back up, Cindy, not even turning around, said, "Nope, we close in ten minutes." "How do ya like that?" she grumbled, keeping her gaze fixed on my hangnail as he walked out. "Who does he think he is to march in here at this hour and expect a manicure?" Then, Cindy's ears, finely tuned to such trappings as expensive sports cars, heard a Jaguar revving up outside her window. She jumped up to look, and there was her Adonis careening out of the parking lot, and out of her life, forever in his sleek chariot. She didn't stop kicking herself long enough for me to respectfully suggest that one should keep one's eyes open all the time for such opportunities. Top producers in the sales profession never stop prospecting—in the dentist's office, in the copy shop, at the pizzeria. One salesman friend of mine clinched a multi million-dollar corporate insurance deal with another nude man he met in his health club Jacuzzi. You can, as the old song says, "find a million-dollar baby in a five-and-ten-cent store."

STAY PSYCHOLOGICALLY "FIT TO KILL"
Big-game hunters lay bear traps even before they spot
the bear. Fishermen cast nets long before the swarm
swims their way. If you set your psychological trap the
minute your feet hit the floor in the morning, chances are
the next big one won't get away.

Now you are physically and mentally ready for love. The next question is, "How can I make my Quarry's insides go all funny when he or she meets me?" Let's start with two of the most potent weapons you need to trigger love at first sight. They're right above your nose. Many people swear, "I fell in love the moment I looked into my lover's eyes."

THE SPIRITUAL KISS

For instance, there can be kisses exchanged merely in intense glances. A sort of "spiritual kiss." can pass between the adoring eyes of a pair of lovers. The hot blooded Latin races know the power of such kisses. Their fiery temperaments are ever questing for new delights, for variations, for delightful and artful ways of adding to the pleasure of love.
There is a poem extant written by a young Spanish poet to his sloe-eyed, raven-tressed senorita. No doubt it was sung by him under her balcony while the romantic moon streamed down liquid beams. But the poem quite amply describes this point of kissing with things other than your lips.

Then she kisses with her eyelids, Kisses with her arching eye-brows, With her soft cheek softly rubbing, With her chin and hands and fingers, All the frame of Manuela, All her blood and all her spirit, All melt down to burning kisses.

There, Perhaps fifteen feet away from him, was the light of her love. Yet, by means of her eyes, she was able to kiss him so that their love continued to flower.

VACUUM KISS

This time, when your eager lips have been deposited on the eager lips of the girl, try to vary the kiss. For instance' instead of using the soul kiss, try what is known as the "vacuum kiss." Here you start off by first opening your mouth a trifle just after you have been resting peacefully with closed lips. Indicate to your partner, by brushing her teeth with the tip of your tongue, that you wish for her to do likewise. The moment she responds, instead of caressing her mouth, suck inward as though you were trying to draw out the innards of an orange. If she knows of this kiss variations your maid will act in the same way and withdraw the air from your mouth. In this fashion, in a very short while, the, air will have been entirely drawn out of your mouths.

Your lips will adhere so tightly that there will almost be pain, instead of pleasure. But it will be the sort of pain that is highly pleasurable. That may sound odd but, nevertheless, it is a fact. Pain becomes so excruciating as to become pleasure. This subject will be gone into very shortly in regard to what is known as the "bite kiss." But, at present let I us continue with the "vacuum kiss."

This kiss must, of necessity, last a comparatively short time. There is tog rill4ch strain on the delicate mouth tissues and the muscles tire very easily. It is .for that reason that this kiss should be shortened. However, there is a special technique to be used to terminating it. When you decide that you have had enough of it, don't suddenly tear your mouth away. At least, don't do it if there are other people present in the house. For, they will become startled by the sound of a loud report which will result if you act suddenly. Any vacuum when suddenly opened to air gives off a loud popping noise. The procedure is simply to open first a comer of your mouth. You will hear a faint hissing sound when this
is done. Immediately, you will find the pressure in your mouth lessen. Themuscles will relax.

And a delicious sense of torpor will creep over your entire body, giving it a
lassitude that is almost beatific. But that is not all.
To every large dinner, there is always added a dessert or a lagniappe which is a toppingoff tid-bit of the evening. The same should apply to the "vacuum kiss." The minute you release Your lips, lift them' away from the tired lips of your lover. Then, without wasting a minute's time, gently, delicately, softly, sensitively, oh so lightly, lower your pursed lips and place a tiny little kiss into the almost bruised lips of the girl. It is this little act of sympathy and condolence that makes the tie between you all the more firm. It tells the girl that you know how she feels and that you sympathize with her.

While resting from the joy-laden ardors of such a kiss, a few more variations are
permissible and advisable. There should never be a let-down in a kissing session. Every moment must be filled with kisses. But they do not have to be kisses of the mouth. There are other kisses which, although they are not as satisfying as the lip kisses, still serve to keep the blood burning.

French Kiss

The expression “kiss of French” became part of English in 1923. One it really considered a limit of slang or a defect on the French culture. To populate which delivered to him was concerned were concerned sexually to be haunted. The expression meant open kiss of mouth filled by passion which implied the contact or the play of the languages.

The French kiss was popularized by the British soldiers and American after the world war one. The French soldiers who were their allies levels their counterparts and colleagues British and American with tales of their exploits sexual and kisses steamy. The promiscuousness and the inhibition-free attitude of the French were propagated with the Americans and the English and they show same animal passion top with their wives when they returned victorious from the battle. All driven back sexual destruction and angst were loosely left in a discharge of the French kisses steamy on their liked. Now, the French kisses are obvious in almost all artistic films, Hollywood,

Bollywood and even cinemas and plays in the whole world. Naturally, they go from oneself that the French kiss are one of the impassioned and popular kisses that in love one can divide. This kiss implies the open mouths of the languages gently probing and whirling against the sensitive skin in the interiors of the mouth. The French kiss is also hailed like kissing heart. You estimate that your heart amalgamates with that of your in love and the breath of the life crosses the mouth of one to the other by the heat of the languages.

French Kiss:
The French kisses are not difficult. But you must make it in good time and mood. As with the majority of the kisses, of what you have need here must be slackened. You should not feel any kind of tension in your neck and shoulders. To take a deep breath with calms feeling. To look at your eyes of in love. To draw close to you and to continue to look at. To cherish its hair or face then gently and to put your arms around it. A kiss never starts with a French kiss, it develops in one. Thus, beginning with a basic kiss which is neither too strong nor violent one. To close your eyes as you immerse its and yourself in the kiss. In the middle of the kiss, to open your mouth gently and to delicately push the mouth of your open daughter using your language. Without being too powerful, moving your language inside his and play with his. Not to let your language disappear soft. To increase the passion and the force of your kiss when it opens its mouth or indicates that it likes what you do. To play around its language and to push the language in it again and to leave its push behind it yours. To try to surround the end of your language around his. To continue with effleurer and to plunge your language in his. As the intensity of the kisses increase and your lips fire with the fire of passion, there can is an excess of saliva forming in your mouths, that you would have not very deep rather than stream and create a disorder.

If you meet resistance during the kiss it the rejection does not mean. It could mean that it is not laid out yet to take things further. The first kiss can always not be the French kiss because the woman wants to obtain her level of comfort until yours. When your French kisses, see that you at the beginning and then slowly embrace it to take the intensity. It is a very sexy thing to feel the language of your wife to whip with yours by espieglery. The lady appreciates it each little as you when it feels impassioned but at the beginning you your language must enter his in a soft way and worrying. Not to finish the French kiss abruptly; to see that you to extend a soft soft kiss after you are made with the French kisses. And yes, motionless to hold it in your arms and to appreciate its body obtaining rubbed against yours.

The French kiss is wettest of all the kisses. It is wise to start with the dry lips and A then let become wet in the heat of the things. You should not humidify your language before starting with a French kiss. If one of you or both carry pilot wheels, test with being soft when the things take the impassioned course.

Preparation for the Kiss

Woman's lips were slightly parted when she awaited the lips of her lover. There was a reason for using this description. Always, in any sort of kiss, just before the male's lips settle onto the lips of his partner, the female's lips should be slightly parted. One reason for this is that cherry-red lips serve as a charming frame for a row of gleaming, white, even teeth. The picture that confronts the kisser is one that draws him onward. And even, months later, when he thinks back to the kiss in the retrospect, he will remember that pretty little picture of the pearls of teeth nestling in their frame of-cherries. The deliciousness of a long-remembered kiss was beautifully expressed in a poem 'called, "Three Kisses," in which occurred the verse:

I gently raised her sweet, pure face,
Her eyes with radiant, love sight filled.
That trembling kiss I'll ne'er forget
Which both our hearts with rapture filled.

Another reason for-parting the lips is that there is a definite gratification the male obtains from the delicious odor that emanates from his loved one's mouth. John Secundus, in describing a kiss,. said - that !& lover's kiss was like:

"... every aromatic breeze That wafts from Africa's spicy trees;"

The odor of a woman's hair can send shivers of joy coursing up and down a man's spine. The odor of her body can convulse him with throes of passion. Odors are as necessary to love as is love, itself. That is why it is so essential that the lips be parted just before the kiss. And that is why the breath should be kept always sweet and pure so that, when the lips art opened, the breath will be like an "aromatic breeze." Sometimes it is advisable to touch the corners of the mouth with perfume. But be certain that there is only the faintest suggestion of an odor and no more. Another thing, lipstick is definitely out in the kiss, because it comes off so readily. A very light coat of lipstick should be worn so that, when
it does come off, it will not serve to betray you. Similarly, the teeth should be kept cleaned and polished. Nothing can dampen a young man's ardor, or a young woman's for that matter, than a row of brown-stained, unkempt teeth.

In kissing a girl whose experience with osculation is limited, it is a good thing to work up to the kissing of the lips. Only an arrant fool seizes hold of such a girl, when they are comfortably seated on the sofa, and suddenly shoves his face into her's and smacks her lips' Naturally, the first thing he should do is to arrange it so that the girl is seated against the arm of the sofa while he is seated at her side. In this way, she cannot edge away from -him when he becomes serious in his attentions. This done, on some pretext or another, such as a gallant attempt to adjust the cushions behind her, he manages to insinuate his arm, first around the back of the sofa and then, gradually, around her shoulders. If she flinches, don't worry. If she flinches and makes an outcry, don't worry. If she flinches,
makes an outcry and tries to get up from the sofa, don't worry. Hold her gently but firmly, and allay her fears with kind, reassuring words. Remember what Shakespeare said about "a woman's no! However., if she flinches and makes an outcry, a loud, stentorian outcry, mind you, and starts to scratch your face, then start to worry or start to get yourself out of a bad situation. Such girls are not to be trifled with ... or kissed. It is such as they, in most cases, who still believe the story 6f the stork which brings babies because of the consequences of a kiss.But if your arm is comfortably reposed across the girl's shoulders and "all's right with the world)" then your next step is to flatter her in some way. All women like to be flattered. They like to be told they are beautiful even when the mirror throws the lie back into their ugly faces.

Catullus once wrote:

Kiss me softly and speak to me low;
Trust me darling, the time is near,
When we may live with never a fear
Kiss me dear!
Kiss me softly, and speak to me law

Then, take a deep sniff of the perfume in her hair and comment on it. Tell her that the odor is like "heady wine." Tell her that her hair smells like a garden of roses. Tell her anything, but be sure to tell her something complimentary. This done, it is only a natural thing for you to do to, desire to sink your nose deeper into her hair so that you can get the full benefit of its bouquet.

Kissing Techniques

The treaty on sexual relations indicates that passion accumulates stage of kissing; truth foreplay is made by lips. If the kiss is well, that functions like aphrodisiac for the two sexes. The kisses are an art so made well; they start many pleasant feelings in the brain. The good techniques to kiss can ensure of the positive effects on circulation of heart and blood, and besides the increased excitation will reinforce the report/ratio.

Many women will be appropriate that the kisses are more with emotion pleasant than reports/ratios because a sexual experiment is temporary but the effect of a kiss continuous to be delayed during hours together, if lips and the heart of the couple together in unison. A woman passivates who does not answer the kiss of a man announces the disinterest in the report/ratio. If the woman blocks for the breath and withdraws in maniac, blame it on the man who envisages for the pleasure of individual, without allowing a woman to derive any moment. By embracing techniques to change considerably. The best kisses are those which are memorable, but leave you haletant for more. To pay the attention so that your companion answers, and so that seems to stop it.

It is important that you do not force yourselves on the woman while embracing. In films you can see a man, in a frenzy of passion embracing lascif its lady and it obtaining lit and lip closing it with key as well. While you test it by yourself, you will see that that does not function completely well and you could be in charge of the rape of date. The life is not a film manuscript. The libido of a woman does not increase all it quickly suddenly. It obtains turned above slowly but surely.

Perfect Kiss
A smooch is the form popularized of kissing but not necessarily perfect kiss. Its lips are not only the worthy candidates for your lips. Even the back of its neck, of its interior arm, its wrist, the back of its knee, its eyebrows, the lower part of its centres and the sector between them, its belly, there is much of sectors which are meant for kisses. Since we speak about the kisses, the goal is to appreciate you and the pleasure it without doing something which is uncomfortable with it. The kisses are not a competition so that you push your language to the bottom his throat. Ni are they a durable test so that you maintained your lips closed with key. To change your kisses. To give a length sensual major kiss where you suck its lips and lick its language. But to go at the same time for softer bites of love on its cheek, neck. To again come very close to your language with its lips. To give soon the kisses to its lips, then to embrace it enclosed the eyelids, the face, and the end of its nose and then returns to its lips. When you embrace, to hold its face in your hand. To embrace, run your fingers by its hair and to cherish its face as you embrace. Also not slog too hard on the kiss. To also let carry out a certain work on your lips. If you continue to embrace it, you do not give him a chance to kiss you. Soft sensual of elasticity little nibbles on its earlobes and when you are with him, sees that you exhale (to breathe) a little air. Little air blast around the neck and the ears could be very awaking and irritating. To be sure that you whisper a romantic compliment or a bad proposal with its ears.

Follow this when you kiss:

1.Dont smoke before you kiss.

2.Not to have excessive saliva in your mouth when you embrace it. To save saliva in your mouth for some places which require moisture

3. Good smell. To plug small Cologne or after-shave lotion. The women have a pointed direction of odor. Moreover they hate the perfumes and the colognes feeling strong bus it is very impetuous with them. To thus apply an indent of small male perfume or Cologne. It surely work!

4.Remove your spects before kissing,this makes you to kiss comfortably

5.If your associate is uncomfortable with your eyes being tedious by it during the kiss, you can maintain them half closed in respect with it of the wishes.

6.Make sure your lips proves soft and juicy for your lady love.

Why people kiss

That is to say, what happens, to the various parts of the body when two people in love join their lips in bliss? Years ago, before our biologists knew of the existence of the glands in our bodies, one writer quoted a scientist as saying that "kissing is pleasant because the teeth, jawbones and lips are full of nerves, and when the lips meet an electric current is generated."

What nonsense! what utter nonsense!

KISSING IS PLIEASANT

Once this hunger for the opposite sex evidences itself, there occurs in the human body what is known as tumescence which, in simple language, is the rhythmical contraction of the various muscles of the body together with the functioning of certain glands, just which glands science has been unable to say definitely. Gland specialists know, by performing certain operations, that the adrenal, the pituitary, the gonad and certain other glands, control the sexual behavior of human beings. It is these glands that re-act, that secrete what are known as hormones into the blood which, in turn, carries them into the various organs effected by a sexual reaction.

Therefore, it can be seen that it is the partial satisfying of the sex-hunger that makes kissing pleasurable.' Electricity is used for turning motors and lighting lamps and heating curling irons. But electricity 4oes not give complete satisfaction to the kiss. But enough of dry science!
We have ahead of us pleasurable reading of the bliss of the kiss. Now that we have learned why it is that men and women kiss, let us go into the methods used in. kissing so as to derive the most satisfaction from this most soul-appeasing of pleasures.

The only kiss that counts is the one exchanged by two people who are in love with each other. That is the first essential of the satisfying kiss. For a kiss is really the union of two soul-mates who have come together because they were made for each other. The. reason for this is that the kiss is really the introduction to love, true love. The kiss prepares the participants for the love life of the future. It is the foundation, the starting point of sexual love. And it is for that reason that the manner in which the kiss is performed is so vitally important.
There are still young women extant who believe that babies are the result of kisses Actually! this is a fact! And this condition exists because our parents, in the main, are either ignorant of the methods of explaining sex to their children or are too embarrassed to enlighten them. The result is that their children obtain their sexual information from the streets and alleys or else remain ignorant of it and believe such things as was mentioned above.

Man and woman are born to love, marry and beget children. Woman is so physically constituted that she is the one who bears the child. Man, on the other hand, is given the duty of being the protector of his wife and, after they are born, of his children. Therefore, he must always be the one who takes the initiative. He must be strong, he must be willing, he must be physically able to take care of his charges, He must be the aggressor.
It is, therefore, necessary that the man be taller than the woman. The sychological reason for this is that he must always give the impression of being his woman's superior, both mentally and especially physically. The physical reason, with which we are more concerned, is that if he is taller that his woman, he is better able to kiss her. He must be able to sweep her into his strong arms, and tower 6ver her, and look down into her eyes, and cup her chin in his fingers and 1 hen, bend over her face and plant his eager, virile lips on her moist, slightly parted, inviting ones. All of this he must do with the vigor of an assertive male. And, all of these are impossible where. the woman is the taller of the-two.
For when the situation is reversed, the kiss becomes only a ludicrous banality. The physical mastery is gone, the male prerogative is gone, everything is gone but the fact that two lips are touching two other lips. Nothing can be more disappointing.

Tips for Good Dating Profiles

Not all people are blessed with the knack of writing an excellent dating profile. Doing it is a lot like composing an ad that is meant to attract potential buyers - it has to be convincing, appealing and honest (to a degree). If it's your first time to design your own dating profile, here are the nuts and bolts to guide you.

Just a little note to the ladies: Most of the examples I use are for men. Women tend not to have problems getting responses from guys inside dating sites (guys usually blast out messages to just about anyone, women are more specific). If you need advice on writing a good female ad many of these rules still apply, so fear not and keep reading

Titles are the most important part of an ad

Use a catchy and interesting title. Since everyone is going to read your profile, you should make it as original, honest and easy to remember as possible. Get your ideas from your own interests , experiences, and personality but don't just say you're spontaneous and exciting – prove it! Above all - you've got to be unique (very, very unique)

Examples of good and bad titles:

Fun guy looking for fun girl.
Too general, no one looks for dull girls – an no fun girls look through dull profiles.

Let me show you what a real man is like.
Immediately after which they'll show you the 'block user button' this is way to
intimidating and challenging to a mate.

Will you guide my way?

Approaching “decent” level profile title. It definitely stands out from the others but most women are looking for a package with all it's nuts and bolts – no assembly required if you know what I mean.
LOST: True love, reward if found.

Bingo, though it's pretty general the title is definitely unique and will get the reader past the initial first click. The introduction should reflect a caring, compassionate, and romantic person just like the title indicates.

Skydiving accountant seeking rock-climbing business woman
Another good one liner. The activity describes the person so much more than just an adjective like “exciting” or “adventurous” could.

The introduction is your own personal summary:
Your introduction should be just as attractive. When you compose your introduction line it must be intriguing enough to compel your reader to continue on. Generally you're limited on the size of your introduction to anywhere from a few hundred words up to 1,000. Make this count and keep it pretty much to the point.

Avoid clichés like the plague Don't bother with clichés and other trite phrases. Being unoriginal and typecast may work for bands like Nickleback but it won't get you laid - avoid the usual titles at all costs. The secret is to be as specific as possible: name a strange incident or experience, an eerie quote from your favorite author, or a bit of a background that would define who you are. I personally find it best to write a draft first then revise it, which brings us to the next topic...

Some common clichés that you see all the time:
Love is a many splendored thing.
It sure is, but this cliché is used so often that no “love” will come from it. All things grow with love. Again, same situation. It sounds great but is so overused that it will not garnish any attention. Make it count, condense your draft. No one wants to read a wordy profile that conveys no message. Many dating profiles suffer in the dark oblivion without hope of getting looked at because they fail to relate anything interesting about the author to the person reading. You might be the most romantic, handsome, charismatic guy in the world but you're online appearance is that of a 14 year old who can't spell or form complete sentences. Put some time into the “flow” of your summary. Make it count, it's the second most important part of your online profile.

A picture says a thousand words:
Clip a photo that's realistic and not misleading. There are all sorts of pictures that people post on the web which are quite dishonest, a bit obscene, of poor quality, and sometimes too formal. The best photo should reveal the normal "you", since, if you are dead set on meeting someone you don't want her to get the shock of her life. Some photos are lewd and show too much skin just to catch attention. If you are seriously into dating, post a clear, sunny picture of yourself - this is sure to elicit positive responses from people. Don't glamorize yourself or post a picture of you wearing a high school toga.

Polish your profile:
Choose the right words and use your grammar or spelling program to polish your
profile. People care about your spelling and grammar because it reflects your
education. At least, show some decency when creating your profile, "The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and a lightning bug," says Mark Twain. If you've written your profile in a hurry, don't attempt to post it yet when you have not proofread it for grammatical and spelling errors. Use your handy word processor programs to clean it for possible mistakes.

Date a college girl

There are many reasons why college campuses rock. I dare say college is the biggest “hunting ground” in North America – even bigger than every single pickup bar combined. I say this because college campuses are just jam-packed with young and eager college students with “butter legs”. (Easy to spread.) A recent survey 1has shown that 63 percent of college girls are looking to find a future husband while in school. This is not surprising, as in today’s society college is the transition between adolescent hood and adulthood. They are stepping into a whole new world, and just old enough to start thinking about the big “M” word. Of course, many of them are probably thinking, “Hey! Look! I’m surrounded by all these guys…so if I want to meet that some special someone…this is going to be the best time!” (And that someone could be you!)

Furthermore, there are many college girls who enjoy “hooking up” with guys for casual. Most college women have had intercourse by the time they graduate. At least 40 percent have had at least one “hookup” with strangers, which means anything from kissing to a full one-night stand. And at least 10 percent have reported to have “hooked up” at least six times. So what does this tell you? College campuses are filled with young, gorgeous and intelligent women who are waiting to be picked up, either for a long term “hookup”.

Where To Find College Women?

For Current College Students:
If you’re a college student, consider yourself in luck. You probably know where to find women already since they must be all around you. However, here are a few suggestions:

1) Classes: This is an obvious one. There can be anywhere from 100-600 students in big freshman lecture classes. Sit at different locations and you’re going to meet a lot of new friends.

2) Clubs: Got a hobby? Join a club and you’re going to meet women with similar interests.

3) Dance Classes: This is my personal favorite. You walk into a dance class and guess what? The ladies are going to outnumber you 20 to 1. Guess who’s going to be getting all the attention? And of course, dancers usually have good bodies…

4) The College Pub/Coffee Shop/Lounge: Most college one-night stands in college start in the pub…so you really don’t want to miss out on this one.

5) Parties: This is a great one. College students throw the most parties in the world. They can just never get drunk enough. Go to a party or two. There will bound to be a single chick or two.

6) International House: If you want to date a foreign student or two, see if there is an international house at your school!

For Non College Students

If you’re not a college student, don’t lose hope. There are still many ways you can meet college students.

1) Back to School: Ever thought about going back to school? Even just for a class or two? More and more adults are going back to school to get the degree they never finished or the course they never took. I know quite a few men who went back to school and ended up meeting their special someone.

#1.1) Get back: If it's been a long time since you were in college, all you have left are the memories. Have your college diploma duplicated and cherish those college memories. You can also get your High school diploma or if you never graduated get fake high school diplomas.

2) Coffee Shops, Clubs and Pubs: College students need to relax as well. And guess where they go? Clubs and pubs near the campus. Go to the coffee shop by the bookstore near your college campus…I am sure you will run into a few college students. Go to a club Friday night…I am certain you will be overrun by college girls. And of course…a lot of college students need to work, so if you look around you will notice a lot of woman working at coffee shops or restaurants, etc…

Remember that if you make friends with just a few college students, you may get
introduced to more people their age!

The Art of “Hanging Out”

Times have changed. The old times of showing up at the door with roses and chocolate is gone. College students do not date in the old-fashioned sense anymore. Nowadays, college students “hang out”. I will now introduce you to the art of getting college women to hang out with you. When you first meet a woman, you should use the silent pickup line you’ve learned from my book. Make good eye contact. Don’t look away. Then compliment her on something. (Read my section about complimenting women in

Now, start talking. Don’t hit on her. Just look like you’re just looking to make friends with her. (Open her up.) College girls like “nice guys”. (By this, I don’t mean guys who kick their asses…but guys who don’t grope them or stare at their boobs at first sight) If this is after a class, try walking with her to the next class or whatever. If it’s close to lunchtime tell her you’re going to get food and see if she wants to come. Or for a coffee, etc. The trick is to make it spontaneous. Her response will much positive than if you just walked up to her and say “Hey wanna go for a coffee next Wednesday at 2:30?” since you’ve already been talking with her. She will have less of a reason to say no. After all, you just want to hang out with her, not date her… so what’s the big problem? Get her phone number ASAP. In the age of cell phones, this is EASY. While you’re talking, pull out your cell casually and ask her to give you a call. There. You have her number! That didn’t take too long, did it? (Here’s a dirty trick: You’re not sure if your phone is working…like if the ringer is on or off… so you ask a chick to give you a call. Bingo! You have her number!)

Keep Advancing:
If she has been receptive of your advances until now, good job. You’re half
way there, soldier! Now you want to double the flirting and teasing and let her
know you’re interested in more than just her minds. Keep advancing unless she
rejects you. If the girl is interested in you, by this time she should be have all the “He loves me, he loves me not” jazz going on in her head. You don’t want to stop now. It’s time to reel the fish in, and when you do, you have to reel her in fast and hard.

Most college couples have the “are we together?” talk before they officially go out as guy and gal. If the time is right and she is falling for you, it’s time to have it now. If you haven’t kissed her yet, do it ASAP and use it as a base to anchor the talk. Once you’ve had the talk, it’ set. You officially have a college girlfriend!

Dating Tips - How to start?

It's amazing how often this step is overlooked. While appearance isn't everything, cleaning yourself up before going out goes a long way. The saying goes - “You can't change the genes in you, but you can change the jeans your in.” and it's absolutely true. Wearing a nice clean shirt, some neat pressed pants, and an up-to-date pair of underwear makes the impression that you are able to take care of yourself and also reflects good hygiene. While this might seem like common knowledge, it's overlooked often enough to earn it's place on our dating tips list.

Keep busy before your date:
Idle minds have time to over-think and over-complicate the situation. Don't dedicate the entire day to waiting for your date to happen, you're a busy person with lots of things to do – and if you don't have anything to do – find something! We've created a checklist of things you could be doing on our site. Your time is important, you're important – which brings us to the next tip.

Never seem too available:
Desperation is the king of date killers. You need to keep the mindset that you are an important busy person that your date is lucky to know. While you can have a mutual respect for your date (even without knowing them intimately) you are taking time from your busy schedule to give her a chance. By always being available, never hanging up the phone first, or constantly calling your date– you're almost guaranteeing you won't have a second date.

Recharge your batteries:
Dating can be tiring, especially when managing multiple dates with different women. If you feel like taking a night off – a weekend off – a week off go ahead and do it. Your dates will understand that you're busy or have personal matters to attend to and they will be there when you're ready to share your time with them. If they request that you have a drink with them on Friday night, just let them know that you'd like to but can't make it this Friday – it's that simple. You're not required to share with them why you can't make it, but it's suggested that you schedule another time you're available to talk or go out.
By taking some time off you can be in top condition both mentally and physically.

Drop the comparisons between new and old dates:
Phrases like “Jennifer is cute, but not as cute as Sarah – the girl I met last week” are sabotaging your relationship with Jennifer. Compare dating to playing the lottery, the more you play – the better your chances of winning. Whether you define winning as forming a long and exclusive relationship or just getting your date into bed you have a much better chance if you play the odds. If your date is attractive and intelligent enough to date in the first place, she's already met your qualifications – why further limit your options?

Be prepared for a fresh take on dating:
Let's face it, technology plays a big part in our lives whether you notice it or not. If you've been out of the dating loop for several years or haven't really ever been in the loop you need to learn to use technology to your advantage in the world of dating. Fortunately we're not just talking about microwave ovens and longer lasting light bulbs here – we're talking about communication mediums. Text messages, emails, instant messages – these are all forms of communication that modern people use and can use for dating. While the traditional “Hey baby, what's your number?” is still alive and kicking, it's often easier to get positive response if you're asking for something less personal such as an email or IM name. You may find that fairly often they write down their phone number just in case you can't get in touch with them on line anyway. Aside from communication methods, the Internet provides for an interesting new medium of meeting people. The “Online Dating Craze” has started to become acceptable and extremely effective in matching hot dates.

Propose a woman

Very few events in anyone's lifetime require as much thought and preparation as marriage. People want their proposals to be the perfect point of culmination in their relationship.

Men and women both want this day to be a truly memorable moment in their lives. But it seems that there are no new ways to get married anymore because virtually everything has been done. Well, guess again.

Think about when and where you want to tell her. Is there a special place you want to be? A certain day? For example, you might want to tell her at the restaurant where you went on your first date, or on the two-month or nine-month anniversary of your first date.

• Set the mood and be romantic. Buy her flowers or a romantic gift.

• Look at her directly, take her hand and tell her how positive you feel about her. Give her examples of things you really like about her. Be sincere.

• Tell her how you feel being with her, and how much you enjoy your time together. Be specific about what you value and appreciate about being with her.

• Follow these positive statements with telling her you love her in whatever way feels best for you. For example: "I feel I've come to love you," "I realize I love you," "I feel so much love for you," "I've fallen in love with you," or simply, "I love you."

Signs that a woman is Interested

I’ve read all the books that say, “If a woman tilts her
head to the side, licks her lips, fondles her hair, and looks over her shoulder at you, there’s a 67% chance that she’s interested in you.”

Here’s what I’ve found:

The main sign signal that I look for now is, ‘Is she acting friendly to me?’

That’s it. Now, of course some women are more forward than others; but overall, if a woman is acting friendly and keeping up an interesting conversation, you’re usually doing pretty well.

The key is to KEEP GOING AND CONTINUE TO THE NEXT STEP ALWAYS.

I have to stop and explain this point.

Most men don’t realize that THEY NEED TO KEEP ADVANCING.

If your conversation is going well, ask for a phone number.

If you’re out for a walk and the conversation seems to be going well, reach over and kiss her.

If you’re at your house watching a movie and start kissing, take her hand and lead her to your bedroom...

get the idea?

Keep advancing.

Women like this and expect it. If they’re not comfortable, they’ll let you know. But don’t worry. Just keep going and advance again at the next opportunity.
Don’t push – advance.
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Street Kings

LAPD corruption comes under the spotlight in Street Kings, the taut police action thriller released this Spring by Twentieth Century Fox.

Keanu Reeves (The Matrix Trilogy, Speed, Point Break) stars as troubled veteran LAPD officer, Tom Ludlow, in this dark tale of good cop versus bad cop.

Directed by David Ayer (Harsh Times), Street Kings also features a first class supporting cast including Forest Whitaker (The Last King of Scotland, The Crying Game) as Captain Wander, Ludlow’s supervisor, Hugh Laurie (House, Stuart Little) as Internal Affairs Captain Biggs, Chris Evans, Jay Mohr, Naomie Harris, and rappers Common and The Game who are joined by comedian Cedric the Entertainer taking on the role of an edgy street informer.

Unable to overcome the death of his wife, Tom Ludlow’s life is thrown further into turmoil when evidence wrongly implicates him in the execution of a fellow officer. He teams up with a young Robbery Homicide Detective (Chris Evans) to track down the real killers through the diverse communities of Los Angeles and realises that if he is to clear his name he must confront the corrupt cop culture that he has been part of for his entire career – ultimately leading him to question the loyalties of everyone around him.

Street Kings marks the first exciting writing collaboration between award winning novelist James Ellroy (The Black Dahlia, LA Confidential) and Kurt Wimmer responsible for the cult action sci-fi thrillers Ultraviolet and Equilibrium with talented new co-writer, Jamie Moss, also working on the screenplay.

Rough, tough and action-packed Street Kings offers an uncompromising view of LA’s criminal underbelly from both sides of the law.

How Women Test Men And Why

In my opinion, most women, especially the ‘hotties’,
have gone through a learning curve here in our western culture that has on average given them a sort of ‘predictable psychological makeup’. Now, there are differences between these women… some are smart, some are not… some are tall, some are short… some are cerebral, some are physical… etc. etc. etc… but there are things that most of them have in common. I’ve made a study of these things… because this is what interests me.

At some point in their lives, hotties began to be treated differently because they were attractive. I mentioned the social psychology concept earlier called ‘The Halo Effect’. Simply stated, attractive people are assumed to be smarter, more honest, more trustworthy, etc. than others. The fact that people do whatever the hottie wants begins to blur their sense of reality and makes them believe that they can have whatever they want whenever they want it… AND THAT’S JUST THE WAY LIFE IS. (This applies in general.)
You’ll notice that many super-hotties will throw tantrums if they don’t like what’s going on or aren’t getting their way… this is a sure sign that they are not living in the same reality as most people… when they don’t get what they want, they get upset because this has worked since they were little… Now, on a subconscious level, I’ve noticed that most hot women realize that they are being ridiculous when they act like bitches, throw tantrums, etc. but it doesn’t really matter because it still WORKS for them when they want what they want… are you with me? Underneath all of this behavior, they are still FEMALE and they are looking for what other females are also looking for…

What are women looking for?

Well, for the record, I have no idea. After 30 years of studying people, Freud said that there was one question that he didn’t have the answer to… “What do women want?”
Nice. BUT, here’s my take on it: First and foremost, they want a man who is in CONTROL (of the situation, himself, his emotions, other people, her… control of the entire reality that they share). Let me ask you, if you were a woman who wanted to test a man to see if he will stay in control, how would you do it? Would you ask the man, “If I get out of hand, will you spank me and put me in my place?”

NO WAY!!!

So they test us by CHALLENGING us to see if we’ll stay in control. The reason I do all of this “Never give a woman a direct answer… unless it’s NO… Never give a woman exactly what she wants…” etc. is, ironically, to give her what she REALLY wants… a man who’s in control.

Women want a challenge. Think romance novel themes… if you don’t know what I’m talking about, sit yourself down for a week and read Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women by Jayne Krentz… How to Succeed With Women By Being A Jerk by F.J. Shark… Endless Rapture by Helen Hazen… and Bad Boys by Margie Palatini… and think about it.

Most of the time, I’m enjoying myself, talking about whatever comes up, making jokes, and generally behaving like a normal person. But, like anything else, if these techniques are used too much, they become worthless… so they must be used with precision and at the right moments. What’s interesting is that because I usually (but not always) do these teasing and seemingly controlling things with a bit of a dry humor spin, I believe that the woman who I’m with has an internal response like, “Wow, this guy is cocky, but I can’t tell if he’s serious or not… and I want to find out… but either way, he’s funny and he’s staying interested in me and not being flagrantly abusive… so he must be interested at SOME level…”

The key is to WATCH FOR THE TESTS and be ready when they come.

Most guys screw up when a woman acts bratty… or when a woman gets upset, they say, “Oh, I’m sorry” and mess it up. Or they act nervous, etc. You have to stay in control… If a woman starts getting angry, instead of getting nervous say, “Oh, poor baby is throwing a tantrum… So what. You’ve been doing the same thing since you were 2, and you didn’t get your way.” SPANK!


Another realization I’ve had is that most women are totally intrigued by men who seem uninterested and crass… it’s almost like they say to themselves, “Wow, this guy seems kind of cocky… and I can’t believe that he’s not interested in having sex with me like all the other dumb pussies that I meet… He’s funny and smart… I wonder if I can get him interested in me… and when I do, I’ll just dump him like the other losers… but this might be fun…”Get it?

But if you are going to act this way, you have to keep it up until the end… and I mean to the end. I’m going to address the ‘treating women well’ issue again. I treat women very well… they always tell me that they’ve never met a man who treats them so well, etc.

How can this be when I seem like such a ball buster? Well, it’s simple really… I do nice things for them ON MY OWN TERMS. I will surprise them with a thoughtful email or a card… or I might give them a nice massage… I open doors and walk on the outside of the curb… But part of most women’s romantic fantasy (in my opinion) is the man taking control of the situation and doing things on HIS terms. Try it for yourself… next time you’re going to meet a woman, tell her what to wear… choose the food and tell her to trust you… if she asks for a kiss, say, “No”… but kiss her later when YOU feel like it… if you know that she likes chocolate, and she asks for some… don’t give it to her… but surprise her with some next time …get it?

Here are a couple of rules of thumb that I suggest:

1. Never give a woman a direct answer… unless the answer is NO. This is a big one. If she says, “Can we sit here?” I say, “No, let’s sit in this one next to it.”…or if she says, “How do you like my dress?” I say, “Well, I think that I like it… just give me a few minutes to see it on you.”… or if she says, “Call me tomorrow.” I say, “No. You call me tomorrow… cummon, you want me and you know it.”

2. If she complains about you or doesn’t like something, turn it up a notch and do it more. If she says to me, “I don’t really like it when you say that.”, I say, “Well then you might want to leave, because I say it a lot.”

3. Women are CONSTANTLY testing to see if they can get you to comply with them. As soon as you do, they hit the road (or marry you). This idea took me years to see and understand, but the fact is that when you’re dealing with a powerful, hot woman she will do all different kinds of things that make no sense at all logically... but all the sense in the world when you understand her mindset. Hot women can have anything they want. What they want is a challenge… something that keeps their interest. If a woman can have anything she wants anytime she wants it, then WHY THE HELL DO GUYS THINK THAT THEY’RE GOING TO BE INTERESTING BY DOING THE SAME THING THAT EVERY OTHER GUY HAS DONE? Duh.

4. Hey, I used to think this way… but then I got a clue. Now, I pay very careful attention and never let her have what she wants. If she says, “Kiss me.” I say, “No.” If she says, “Come over to my house.” I say, “I’m busy right now, I’ll come over later.” If she says, “I want you so bad, please make love to me.” I say, “Well, I think that you need to wait a little longer. And besides, I’m not finished kissing you.” Get it? I NEVER give a woman exactly what she asks for… EVER!Always send mixed signals. Tell her I want to be friends and kiss her. Tell her what she just did was unacceptable and then go kiss her. Spank her if she does something nice. Also, respond differently to the same thing. For example, one time if she comes over and sits on my lap, I kiss her. Another time I push her off… get it? Never be predictable… NEVER.

For the record, when I say, “always” and “never”, I don’t really mean “ALWAYS 100% WITHOUT EXCEPTION EVER.” I mean that you should do these as much as you possibly can, because you really can’t overdo any of them as long as you stay cocky and funny while you’re doing them.

The test is always, “Is she laughing, smiling, having fun most of the time?” If so, you can’t overdo these four rules.

Attitudes of women

When I first started out learning how to meet women, I remember that I had a feeling inside like, “I’m afraid to just walk up to a strange woman and start talking.” I thought of all kinds of things that could go wrong. “What if she has a boyfriend nearby who easily gets jealous and wants to beat me up?” “What if she says something that puts me down and makes me feel bad?” “What if she says something to someone else about me being a loser because I tried to talk to her?”

All of these different ideas combined inside of me to give me a general fear of meeting women. I’ve since learned that none of my worst fears would come true when meeting a new woman. I’ve met hundreds and hundreds of women over the last few years – and none (NONE!) have reacted or caused anything to happen that I couldn’t handle in the moment.

In the process I realized something very important: No tactic works on every woman. Some women are not interested in meeting someone right now. Some women are lesbians and have no interest in men.

Some women are happily married or in a relationship and don’t want to meet someone new right now. Some women are angry. Some are cold. My guess is that in a random group of 100 women, only about 30 of them might be open to meeting someone new right now (in a romantic sense). What this means is that 70 AREN’T interested in meeting someone new. And of the 30 who are interested in meeting someone new, maybe only 15 are nice, friendly, happy people. Do you see where I’m going? If you want to be successful at meeting women, you have to understand that many of the women you talk to aren’t interested. Most people take things like this PERSONALLY. Instead of just moving on to the next woman, they get all uptight and feel bad about it. I’ve now learned a better way. I also learned something else that helped me dramatically.

Walking up
I learned that women are used to being approached, flirted with, and picked up on in general by men. Even women who are what you might call ‘average’ are approached by men on a pretty regular basis. So when you’re about to approach a woman, keep in mind that it’s not like you’re going to try something that she’s never heard of before and shock her. You may not be totally comfortable yet just walking up to any woman, but she’ll be relatively OK with it.

And remember, if she’s not interested, it’s most likely that she’s not interested in anyone right now. Of course it’s true that she might not be interested in your ‘type’ or you may have acted in a way that she didn’t like, but the fact is that no matter what happens, you’ll find that it’s no big deal.

When I first started my journey, I realized that some of the greatest memories that my friends and I have are when something bad happened to one of us. Looking back, we usually laugh about these things and make fun of each other and ourselves. So I thought about it, and I realized that getting rejected really harshly by a woman would actually be a funny thing. I imagined my best friend and I saying, “Hey, remember that time when I walked up to that girl in the mall and said “Hi”, but she told me that she doesn’t date men who look like Pee Wee Herman? Ha ha ha ha...”

Think of it this way:
If you get shut down really hard, just tell a couple of friends. They may not let you live it down, but at least you can laugh about it! (And if you have friends that won’t help you laugh about it, then you need some new ones.) Another part of the attitude equation that I realized is that different women respond to different looks, personalities, etc. One woman might only like men who dress in suits and ties, while another might only like women who dress like bad boy rockers. Whatever style you develop, DON’T CHANGE IT JUST BECAUSE SOME WOMEN DON’T LIKE IT.

The price of big success is having some people dislike you. So once you find a style that works for you, stick with it, and only change it because YOU choose to do so!

Trace your Woman

• Another general fact: Not all girls like to chat on the phone. Or want to be called every day. Remember to read cues.




• A general fact for me, I have no idea if it applies to other people: I HATE being told exactly when you're going to call. I swear I will purposely leave the house between 5 and 5:15 if you tell me that that's when you're going to call. For some reason it's just way too confining.

• And I hate being told that you're going to be home between 8 and 10case I want to call you. Don't do it. I won't call. Just leave the whole thing open. 'I'll call you tonight' if you must; 'I'll call you later' even better.

• The scenario: You woke up with her this morning. The rule: Call her that night. Weekday, weekend, doesn't matter. If you spent all day with her afterwards you're off the hook, but must call the next day.

• The scenario: You visited for the weekend from out of town. The rule: Call as soon as you get home to let her know you got home alright. No exceptions.

The scenario: You just got home from being with your friends, you're drunk, you're thinking about her. The rule: Call her. Drunken phone calls are so much fun. And girls like to know that you're thinking of them when you're drunk. This will also earn you lots of points if you're actually out of town for the weekend and you still call her late Sat. night. BUT be careful with this one. Only do this if you're confident that the girl likes you too and confident that the girl isn't the kind of person who'll get psycho jealous just 'cause you went and had fun without her. (If she's that kind of person you don't want to date her anyway. . .) The scenario: It's Sunday night. The rule: You call. Always call on Sunday night.

Exchange Contacts

I’ve personally stopped focusing on just getting phone numbers. I’ve found that e-mail addresses are far better. Let me explain. I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a couple of years ago. If a woman is single, I can walk up together and get her number in about a minute. I found out later, after working like a mad scientist on this skill, that numbers don’t equal success.You see, women have many different reasons for giving out their phone numbers. Some love the attention of having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn guys down.Some are actually interested. But based on the universal feedback that I get from men and my personal experience, women act differently on the phone than they do in person. When you call a woman for the first time, she’ll often start acting stand offish or even worse, just plain rude. I’ve found that getting an e-mail address is not only easier, but it gets more positive responses later on.

It’s almost like women appreciate it that you’ve taken the time to think about what you’re going to say when you write an e-mail to them. The other benefit of e-mail is that it can be written and answered anytime. If you call, you have to actually reach them. But an e-mail can be answered anytime. And I’ve found that e-mails are answered far more often than voicemail messages.

Here’s the how-to:
After I’ve talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I’ll often say something like, “Well, it was nice meeting you. I’m going to get back to my friends.” They usually don’t know what to do, as they’re used to guys clinging. Then, just as I’m turning to walk away… and we kind of disconnect… I turn back and say, “Hey, do you have email?” If they say ‘yes’, I take out a pen and paper and have them write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the ‘yes’ that they give me as a ‘yes’ to get it from them as well. And they’ve ALL gone along with it so far.) Then I say,“Write your number down there too.” I won’t go into all of it, but this move is a powerhouse. When you ask for email, it’s very low risk for them… so they think, “Fine, I’ll do that”… and then when they’re already writing, I get the phone number too… which is more natural. If they say no, then I bust on them and say, “Well, do you have electricity?” Then I say, “Well, OK then… I like e-mail better, but I’ll take your regular phone number… it’s so damn hard to reach people on the phone these days.

”I hope you get what just happened… OK, then, as they’re writing I say, “Is this a number that you actually answer?” If not, then I say, “Look, write your real number down… it’s going to be OK… I’ll only call you nine times a day.” They laugh and give me their real number. Just realize that all you have to do is ask. Like I said, I’ve tried all kinds of things. Many guys say, “But what do I tell her as a reason why I want her number or e-mail?” I’ve never had a woman ask me. If you ask and they give it, then she knows why you asked.
If she doesn’t give it to you, then she also knew why you asked. Just assume that this is the case. If you ask every time, and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way, you’ll get a lot of e-mails and phone numbers.